Coaching

I am in the business of inspiring people to walk the talk. My coaching is not for the faint of heart, it is for those who want to wake up and unwrap themselves.

Imagine what could happen if you backed yourself and pursued a passion, Leap of Faith by Melanie Gow
Imagine what could change if you backed yourself and walked the talk.

Having spent a lifetime exploring the human condition, I find myself in the business of stoking the fires of dreams and inspiring people to walk the talk.

I work on word of mouth or serendipity, if you have found yourself here it’s probably because you are exactly where you are meant to be; your heart has brought you, listen to it.

My coaching is not for the faint of heart, it is for those who want to wake up and unwrap.

Searching for the heartbeat of your essence is a life-changing experience that peels back everything that has made you what you’ve become, and leaves you with who you are. That is what we will do together…

The simple challenge of living in a world in turmoil can dull that clear-eyed eagerness for becoming everything we can be. The pain of disease, divorce, death, the simple brutality of idle criticism or petty gossip, can teach us to be afraid to fight for our dreams. So we shrink to fit and tell ourselves we are now wise and rational to want so little from life.

From inside that box of our own making we hear the sounds of dreams shattering, we can feel the disappointment, and smell the frustration, and hear the broken bones. Many times we watch others endure bruising defeat, and we reassure ourselves that they just need to grow up; and we ignore the dull ache in our hearts.

But, from inside that box we can’t see the fire in the eyes, or feel the knot in the stomach, or know the delight, the sheer delight in the hearts of those who are fully-engaged in The Grand Quest.

And so I see it this way. I have to see the beauty and I see the possibility in the world, and in you; I have to believe in it.

Anyone can unwrap one step at a time, and in the humble art of becoming is a gentle surrender to be so much more.

So, I take up my passion and walk out into the fray. Far from naive, it’s about as radical as you can get to stay peaceful and kind, and become fully yourself when all around seems both incendiary and crushing.

Come with me – nothing will be the same again.

I love the experience of being with another person in the space of created trust, commitment, and vision. I am constantly amazed at what gets generated when two people talk together, and listen within a space of safety and candor. There is nothing quite like that creation. I love what I do and I love whom I do it with.

Leap of Faith, taken in Lorraine France, Stand AppArt by Melanie GowYour commitment to unwrapping starts here

Minimum Coaching Agreement: 3 hours (approximately one month), £1,000, a free initial consultation followed by three full sessions of an hour. Ongoing coaching is at £250 a session.

All main coaching is done face-to-face in my home in Windsor, or on Skype under applicable circumstances.

To ensure your commitment to yourself I ask you to invest a month’s coaching fees prior to the first session, and they are non-refundable.

I work with most clients from one to three months.

It has been my great privilege to help unwrap a wide variety of extraordinary people. I have worked with individuals as young as 14 and as old as 81. With entrepreneurs, lawyers, celebrities, artists, authors, singers, capitalists, liberalists, socialists, public servants, ministers, middle management, friends, neighbours, dog-lovers, broken-hearted, adventurers, and teens.

If you need medication, see your doctor, if you need therapy, get a good psychologist. If you want get clear, and unwrap, work with me.

If you are interested in working together, please contact me, and please, serious and appropriate enquiries only.

Transformational Listening; Turning Base Interaction Into Precious Golden Insight

Transformational listening is far from being a passive reception of what’s being said, waiting for a turn to speak; it is an active, engaged, and present state. It turns base interaction into precious golden insight into ourselves.

Transformational listening is far from being a passive reception of what’s being said, waiting for a turn to speak; it is an active, engaged, and present state. It turns base interaction into precious golden insight into ourselves.

One Sunday afternoon recently I found myself in a converted stable behind the back of a pub, giving a talk. After all the questions were asked and answered I was privileged to be signing books, and I asked the next person in front of me, a woman my age, if she wanted the book dedicated to anyone?

She stood in silence, looking at me.

The funny thing about silence is that if you hold that space it creates a safe bubble for someone to unfurl. A silence between two people is so much more than a conversation, it is a commitment. A promise of confidentiality. Any conversation that follows is given the same space to be honest.

She said she really wanted the book for her son, who had agreed to walk 100km with her.

“That’s a beautiful thing.” I said, and I meant it.

“The thing is he’s said he would, but I have to choose where we go …” and she talked around her frustration with what she felt to be a lack of commitment from her son, and so it went.

The thing about transformational listening is that it is far from being a passive reception of what’s being said, waiting for a turn to speak; it is an active, engaged, and present state.

Really listening to someone and their intonation, the rhythm of hesitation and fluency, the far from random choices of words, and gestures and inflection is like being gifted a lucid map to their very core.

Any act of speaking is an invitation to someone else, to someone listening, to glimpse the startling, fractal perfection of that person’s raw complexity.

Actually listening is to slowly, gently, form a connection; one that shapes the journey, a journey that can travel deeply in the inner landscapes of another human being.

Until the rhythmic pulse of listening and talking become the same thing; that constant, delicate, intricate throbbing becomes a profound and expanding exposure of life itself.

Transformational Listening becomes an intimate bubble, the most significantly human space, for a magical alchemy; it turns the base interaction into precious golden insight into ourselves.

The woman paused for a minute, looking to me for understanding.

However, I have found, any time we honestly search for answers from within a conversation, simple listening holds a space in which those answers inside ourselves can be heard; in being heard we risk exposure but, in asking we uncover revelation.

This beautiful woman, who made herself vulnerable, realised that actually the answer lay with her.

“My son is waiting for me!”

She said; “He is ready, HE is waiting for ME.”

That was it. She realised, if someone could do 800km, she could do 100km. More importantly she was going to, no excuses.